Lately it has become my 'philosophy' that people can only say things as a joke or sarcastic comment when it in some way reflects their opinion.
While I have since then found out that this does not always hold true, there are certainly cases where this observation *does* seem to apply. Without wishing to side with anyone or wishing to offend anyone, I will use Jonty's statement as an example of this. Mostly because he's already been flamed for making the statement in the first place.
In my opinion, saying "sounds like you're jealous" at the very least means that you are feeling proud about whatever you have that others don't. The thought of showing off about it did come into your mind, but you wisely decided not to.
However, the way I interpret it, your sarcastic comment was an indirect if not direct result from the line of thought.
I might be entirely wrong about this, though. All I know is that the above holds true for me: There have been plenty of times where I've jokingly called people things because that's actually what my opinion of them happened to be. Not *every* joke is a concealed form of criticism, though. Plenty of jokes or sarcastic comments come from sheer sense of humour.
I don't know where I was going with whatever I wrote above, but I'm sure someone'll get it
As for the situation: I've not been on top of things as much as others, so I can not form an objective opinion of the matter. I've heard some opinions from people I respect, from either side of the issue. I'll dig a little deeper and then maybe I can enlighten you all with my personal opinion.
After that it gets to be up to you to disregard it and continue squabbling